{"id":602982,"date":"2021-09-15T20:20:41","date_gmt":"2021-09-16T00:20:41","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2026-08-10T12:01:57","modified_gmt":"2026-08-10T16:01:57","slug":"a-hard-saying-pentecost-19-b-october-3-2021","status":"publish","type":"sermon","link":"https:\/\/staging.episcopalchurch.org\/es\/sermons\/a-hard-saying-pentecost-19-b-october-3-2021\/","title":{"rendered":"A Hard Saying, Proper 22 (B) \u2013 2021"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>[RCL] Job 1:1; 2:1-10; Psalm 26; Hebrews 1:1-4; 2:5-12; Mark 10:2-16<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-text-color has-green-color has-alpha-channel-opacity has-green-background-color has-background is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"200\" scrolling=\"no\" src=\"https:\/\/playlist.megaphone.fm\/?e=DFMS5512558361&#038;light=true\" width=\"100%\"><\/iframe>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-text-color has-green-color has-alpha-channel-opacity has-green-background-color has-background is-style-wide\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignright size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.episcopalchurch.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Cover-FB-1024x536.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-252986\" style=\"width:512px\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Today may be a Sunday when the preacher and the congregation are of one heart and one mind: the preacher doesn\u2019t want to deliver a sermon on divorce and the congregation doesn\u2019t want to hear a sermon on divorce. Likely many preachers have looked at our Gospel lesson from Mark, Jesus\u2019 teaching on divorce, and said to themselves, \u201cThis would be a good Sunday to focus on the Epistle lesson.\u201d And this could all go pretty well. Except for the fact that after the service there is always a person who says something like, \u201cThank you for your sermon today. I found it helpful. But I was wondering about the Gospel lesson and Jesus\u2019 statements on divorce, because my daughter is going through this rough time\u2026\u201d And then you get a wrenching story of parents, spouses, children going through the heartbreak of divorce. A sermon on Jesus\u2019 prohibition of divorce in Mark\u2019s Gospel may not be an easy thing for the preacher or the congregation. But people \u2013 especially those who are struggling with divorce and genuinely want to know how their faith connects with their lives \u2013 deserve to hear what Jesus has to say, even if it is not easy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In our Gospel lesson, Jesus is engaged in a debate with some Pharisees over the issue of divorce. They ask him, \u201cIs it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?\u201d Now, there are indications that this wasn\u2019t a sincere question. Mark tells us they asked this question in order \u201cto test\u201d Jesus. Rather than seeking an answer to an honest question, they were trying to set a trap, because in the Judaism of Jesus\u2019 day, the legality of a husband divorcing a wife wasn\u2019t in question. It was permitted. The debate centered around the conditions under which divorce was permitted; the more stringent side saying it was permitted only in cases of serious sexual misconduct and the less stringent side saying it was permitted even if the husband simply no longer found his wife pleasing. Therefore, in asking Jesus whether divorce was legal, they were really trying to catch Jesus contradicting the law. Perhaps they had heard that Jesus taught that divorce was prohibited. If they could get him to say so publicly, they could discredit him or at least disgrace him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In good Jewish fashion, Jesus responds to the Pharisees\u2019 question with one of his own: \u201cWhat did Moses command you?\u201d The Pharisees in reply refer to Deuteronomy 24:1: \u201cMoses allowed a man to write a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her.\u201d Jesus reveals their disingenuousness. They had this bible verse in their back pocket and were waiting to pounce on Jesus for contradicting the scriptures. But Jesus responds in two ways. First, he says it was because of your hardness of heart that Moses wrote this commandment for folks like you. Here, Jesus is saying permission for a man to divorce his wife was a regrettable allowance for certain people\u2019s spiritual blindness, with the strong implication being that it was for folks like the Pharisees and their spiritual ancestors. Second, Jesus trumps one piece of scripture (Deuteronomy 24:1) with other pieces of scripture (Gen. 1:27; 2:24) saying: \u201cfrom the beginning of creation \u2018God made them male and female.\u2019 \u2018For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.\u2019\u201d Jesus goes beyond the passage from Deuteronomy to God\u2019s original intentions for marriage in creation. He sees these passages as more directly applicable to the question at hand, and, in his view, as prohibiting divorce. Jesus, therefore, concludes his argument by saying, \u201cSo they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.\u201d The Pharisees, who tried to catch Jesus contradicting scripture, are shown to be hard-hearted, spiritually blind opponents who themselves fail to understand the scriptures. The proof-texting gambit with Jesus doesn\u2019t work out as planned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Later, when Jesus is alone with his disciples, they again ask about divorce. He tells them, \u201cWhoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.\u201d Here, Jesus does two interesting things. First, he extends the logic of his prohibition of divorce to say that if someone divorces and remarries, they commit adultery. This follows because if the first marriage remains in effect, then entering into a second marriage is adulterous. Second, he speaks of the scenario of a wife divorcing her husband. This really wasn\u2019t an option in the Judaism of Jesus\u2019 day (though there may have been some fringe exceptions). In Judaism, it was really a question only about the legality of a husband divorcing a wife. To divorce or not was the prerogative of Jewish men \u2013 not women. In Roman law, wives could divorce their husbands, so perhaps Jesus was offering a nod in the direction of gentiles in his prohibition of divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The courageous preacher who has come this far in his or her sermon on Jesus\u2019 prohibition of divorce usually, in my experience, tries to go on to soften the seeming harshness of Jesus\u2019 teaching. Yes, understanding the context of the passage has helped some, but it still comes across as one of Jesus\u2019 so-called \u201chard sayings\u201d. Perhaps the wisest thing would be to end here and to just allow the people of God to sit for a Sunday with the incongruity of a Jesus who doesn\u2019t always say things we like to hear. And yet, preachers are also pastors, and we no doubt know good and faithful parishioners, pillars of the church even, who happen to be divorced. We love them and we know that they did not divorce lightly but for very good reasons. They often grieve the end of their marriages, and yet also believe that their marriages needed to end. And many preachers oftentimes agree. The Episcopal Church does too, in as much as it has allowed divorced parishioners to remarry (given certain conditions which have evolved over the last century or so). This is not intended to diminish the esteem in which we hold the ideal of lifelong commitment in marriage. But in our sinful and broken world, sometimes we recognize that marriages need to end, even if such endings are painful and tragic. So, we try to say more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Preachers who try to soften the harshness of Jesus\u2019 prohibition of divorce usually take one of three approaches. The first approach, let\u2019s call \u201cJesus protects the wellbeing of women.\u201d The idea here is that, in the Judaism of Jesus\u2019 day, wives were dependent on their marriages for their physical, economic, and social wellbeing. Since divorce in Judaism was the sole prerogative of husbands, this placed married women in a very precarious position. A divorced woman was very vulnerable in first century Israel and if a husband had the right to divorce his wife, in some teachers\u2019 eyes even for trivial matters, a woman\u2019s wellbeing was quite dependent on the steadfastness or whims of her husband. Jesus\u2019 prohibition of divorce can therefore be seen as a way of protecting women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The second approach is related to the first. Let\u2019s call it \u201cJesus introduces reciprocity in marriage.\u201d The idea here is that Jesus criticized the patriarchal understanding of marriage found in the Judaism of his day and introduced a note of equality and reciprocity in marriage. We have already seen that the question in Judaism at the time of Jesus was about the rights of a husband to divorce his wife. A wife didn\u2019t have a reciprocal right and in fact was pretty much viewed as a husband\u2019s property. That\u2019s why, technically speaking, the Old Testament views adultery as a property violation against a husband, a form of stealing a man\u2019s property by taking his wife. By definition, adultery could only be committed against a man because the husband was not regarded in any reciprocal sense as the property of the wife. Therefore, when Jesus says that a man who divorces his wife and remarries commits adultery against his wife, Jesus introduces something new into the understanding of marriage. He is saying that a wife also has an equal and reciprocal right to the sexual fidelity of her husband. Jesus\u2019 teaching on divorce and remarriage introduces a remarkable equality and reciprocity between husband and wife.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The third attempt to soften Jesus\u2019 prohibition of divorce let\u2019s call the \u201cWe\u2019re all sinners\u201d approach. The idea here is to point out the ways in which we have all failed to live up to Jesus\u2019 teachings. Anybody here ever been angry with another member of the church or insulted them? Anybody holding onto unforgiveness? Divorce must be seen in the context of all the ways people fail to live up to the demands of the Gospel. The good news is that for all our failings God offers forgiveness. All of us have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God and all of us are dependent on God\u2019s free gift of grace by which we are made right with God. In this sense, divorced persons are no different from anybody else. We\u2019re all sinners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is something to be said for each of these approaches. However, I would like to offer an additional way of looking at this text by viewing it in light of other New Testament passages about divorce. This will enable us, I hope, to see a certain development within the New Testament that can provide us with a scriptural warrant for the permissibility of divorce under certain conditions and for very good pastoral reasons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are only a handful of other passages in the New Testament dealing with divorce. In Luke, there is only one verse, \u201cAnyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and whoever marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery\u201d (Luke 16:18), which basically reiterates the prohibition of divorce and remarriage that we find in Mark\u2019s Gospel. In Matthew\u2019s Gospel, however, we find a significant development. In Matthew\u2019s version of Jesus\u2019 debate with the Pharisees, Jesus says, \u201cWhoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another commits adultery\u201d (Matt. 19:9). Here we see what people refer to as Matthew\u2019s \u201cexception clause.\u201d It is repeated in Matthew 5:32: \u201cI say to you that anyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, causes her to commit adultery.\u201d Scholars debate what the exact nature of this \u201cunchastity\u201d may or may not be, but for our purposes, we need not delve into the details. The important point is that in the Gospel of Matthew we find passages which acknowledge an exception to the absolute prohibition of divorce that we find in Mark\u2019s Gospel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The only other New Testament passage that deals directly with divorce comes from Paul\u2019s first letter to the Corinthians. In this passage, we also find Paul permitting divorce under certain circumstances. However, he does so in a highly significant way. Paul clearly knows of Jesus\u2019 prohibition of divorce. In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, he says, \u201cTo the married I give this command\u2014not I but the Lord\u2014that the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does separate, let her remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband) and that the husband should not divorce his wife.\u201d Paul\u2019s phrase \u201cnot I but the Lord,\u201d shows he knows what Jesus taught about divorce and remarriage. And yet later in the passage Paul goes on to say that it is permissible for a Christian who is married to a non-Christian to separate from their non-believing spouse. Significantly, Paul prefaces these remarks by saying, \u201cTo the rest I say \u2013 I and not the Lord\u2014that if any believer has a wife who is an unbeliever\u2026\u201d (1 Cor. 7:12). With the phrase \u201cI say\u2014I and not the Lord\u201d Paul acknowledges that he is going beyond what he knows Jesus to have said about divorce and remarriage. Nonetheless, Paul is confronted with a situation in which people who have become Christians are still married to their non-Christian spouses. Paul\u2019s counsel is that Christians with non-believing spouses who consent to remain married ought to remain married. But, if it is not possible for the non-believing spouse to remain married to his or her Christian spouse, Paul says separation is permitted. Paul says, \u201cIf the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so; in such a case the brother or sister is not bound. It is to peace that God has called you\u201d (1 Cor. 7:15). Under these circumstances, Paul permits a Christian to divorce. Paul is clear that it is he who is saying this, not Jesus. And yet, given the circumstances, Paul believes it is permitted because God calls us to live in peace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When Jesus\u2019 absolute prohibition of divorce in Mark is seen in the context of other New Testament passages, it seems as though the New Testament prohibition of divorce is not so absolute. It is clear that the New Testament is consistent in seeing the lifelong commitment between a husband and a wife as an extremely important aspect of Christian discipleship. Marriage is held up as a lifelong covenant that is to reflect God\u2019s faithfulness and God\u2019s love. And yet in Matthew, we see an exception that permits divorce in cases of serious sexual impropriety and in Paul we see permission to divorce when an unbelieving spouse no longer wishes to remain married to a Christian. In the New Testament itself, therefore, we find a process of moral reflection and pastoral adaptation that allows for divorce under certain circumstances. Taken together, these New Testament passages suggest a scriptural basis for the ongoing moral reflection upon and pastoral adaptation of Jesus\u2019 teaching on divorce and remarriage. I am not suggesting that the church ought to simply accommodate itself to the prevailing cultural norms and assumptions about marriage and divorce. What I am saying is that the New Testament itself envisions a faithful moral and pastoral engagement with Jesus\u2019 prohibition of divorce in light of the ongoing demands of discipleship. In our day, for example, I think we have to say that in situations of violence and abuse divorce is permissible. Sometimes, tragically and regrettably, ending a marriage will be the right thing to do. We should be clear about the moral and pastoral reason why we think this is so. And we should, like Paul, be clear that it is we &#8212; and not Jesus &#8212; who make this call. Nonetheless, the whole of the New Testament witness permits us to see this as a faithful response.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019m not too sure how the preacher and the congregation will feel after such a sermon on divorce. I don\u2019t know any rousing divorce hymns to use for the recessional. And yet maybe some important conversations will ensue between the pastor and members of the congregation or amongst parishioners themselves. And maybe that person whose daughter is going through a rough time in her marriage will thank you for not running away from the Gospel lesson, but rather trying to deal with it as faithfully and fairly as you could even if it was sometimes hard to hear. A person who is struggling with divorce and sincerely wants to know what Jesus and the church have to say about it deserves at least that much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>This sermon was written by <strong>the Rev. Joseph S. 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